When ending any kind of relationship, it is always very hard and very painful, especially if you did not want that relationship to end, but it never compares to getting over your first love. Why is your first love the hardest relationship to get over? Not only is it hard but you carry those memories of your first love with you for the rest of you life. It does not matter if you’re in a new relationship or it is 10 years later, for some reason the relationship you shared with your first love will be the memories you share with your kids if they should ever ask, if daddy or mommy was your first love. You can be extremely happy in a new relationship and run into an ex from your past and it is not a big deal, but if you run into your first love, you get these butterflies in your stomach that you wish would just go away. It is annoying that this person still has that effect on you. Those that have moved on from their first love can agree that the feelings we had for our first love, we will never feel again for any other person.
They do not call it your first love for nothing. You never hear about your second love or your third love and it is because you can fall in love again but it will never be like your first love. What is so amazing about the feelings and emotions you feel for your first love is that it is the first time ever experiencing love, the first time to just be head over heels about a person, the first time to really care about a person more than you do yourself. Getting over your first love is one of the hardest things you will ever have to deal with. To say it is an emotional rollercoaster just does not explain it enough. The pain and heartache you go through, the emotions that affect the way you eat and sleep and just function through out your day is truly overwhelming. What is worse is when you finally get over it and try to move forward, get into another relationship, you find yourself still searching to feel those same feelings in this new relationship and the truth of the matter is that love you felt for your first love is a feeling you will never ever feel again.
It is so hard to get over your first love because you do not really “get over” it. You just move on. That relationship you shared with your first love impacts you for the rest of your life. It is a memory that you will always have with you and that person will always hold a place in your heart that no one can ever replace, even if he or she broke your heart. You can not help it. Sometimes you just want to forget about that person and that relationship, especially if things got bad towards the end, but your heart and the experience will never allow you to. You will always wonder how that person is doing, whether he or she is happy in life, if he or she is married or have any children. That person will always cross your mind every now and then. It does not matter if you are involved in a new relationship. People tend to think that if you are truly happy, then your first love should never come to mind, but that is just not true. You might hear a song that reminds you of your first love or you might see something in your new relationship that you once did with your first love, or sometimes you just can not help but to compare that relationship to your new relationship.
We never really get over our first loves. We just learn how to move on. We learn how to pick up the pieces and adapt. Life goes on and we move forward. The best advice I can give anyone when trying to get over your first love is to focus on living your life. Do not focus so much on “I just have to get over this person”. Life will help you move on because nothing ever remains the same. Embrace the changes in your life that we all face in life. Focus on you! Focus on the people in your life that will always be there and that bring you joy, like your family and close friends. Find a good support system and let them be there for you. You do not want to deal with this alone. You need to surround yourself with people who love you and that will support you. Another way to help you get through it is creating a journal and writing down your feelings as well as your goals. That has always helped me get through hard times. It is a way to release those inner feelings that you just might not want to admit to anyone else. Listening to music is also another helpful tool. Of course you do not want to listen to anything that is going to make you sad. Like love songs or songs that remind you of that relationship. You want to listen to up beat music and music that will make you happy, that will help motivate you to get up and get out the house.